It is Raksha Bandhan – A festival of India celebrating the brother sister bond traditionally. This now extends to celebrating the bond between siblings and sometimes includes their spouses too.
The sibling bond is a unique bond. I always tell my daughters that your sister is a “best friend” sent to you from God. My mom has six siblings, in different parts of the world. Yet they are so close. Not just after the internet has made it easier to connect, but I have been seeing it ever since I remember. They’ve always known about happenings in each other’s lives, and been there for each other for almost every happy or sad occasion – not always in person but always in spirit. This bond truly inspires me.
While the sibling bond always remains special no matter what, sometimes it takes some effort to remain connected. Especially once we move out into our own homes, get married, have kids and our own friend circle. Here are some small reminders that will make sure you do not lose touch and help in connecting with your siblings – your special friends from God
Build a relationship with your sibling’s spouse
This is one of the most important things to help in connecting with your sibling post their marriage. Their spouse wants to feel welcome and be a part of the family. So, welcome them into your family without any bias. Even if you may be very different people, understand that they are the most important person in your sibling’s life. Include them in some of your “inside “jokes and stories and talk to them about your cherished childhood memories. If they feel included in your circle, they would not consider you a threat to their relationship with your sibling. This definitely makes things smoother and happier for everyone.
Sudden surprise visits
We generally are always for special occasions like engagements, marriages, award ceremonies etc for our siblings. However, a surprise visit just to enjoy the rain together or a surprise pickup from the airport after their vacation would be a super way to add that spark to your relationship. These small surprises go a long way to help in connecting with your siblings far more than a formal and expected visit.
Make full use of technology
With technology, it has now become much easier to stay in touch. Use it as much as you can. Small texts when you come across things that remind you of them, video calls to stay in touch with them and/or your nieces and nephews, an occasional hand written letter or card. All these though may be small gestures but show that you care. And go a long way in helping you stay connected with your sibling.
Plan vacations/ outings together
Another simple yet effective way to stay connected is going together for vacations. The free time and atmosphere help a lot to relive the old memories as well as make new ones. It is also a great way to relieve stress. If you stay close by, having dinners together, going for movies or shopping together are wonderful ways to bond
Birthdays and special occasions
Make sure you remember to call and wish, not just your sibling but their spouse as well as their children on all their special occasions – be it a birthday, anniversary, children winning some prizes or medals. They are all family, remembering them on their special days makes them feel special, and thus keeps you all connected.
And not to forget the most important one – This Raksha Bandhan and every other, make it super special. After all, you’re lucky to have a day dedicated to celebrating this wonderfully special bond
This post is a part of the Raksha Bandhan #festival blogging and here are some wonderful articles that will transport you to a virtual festive mode